Lately, I have been doing very good with my self esteem and self confidence. And then today happened. I don't understand how some people think that they can give unsolicited advice. So here is what happened.
I was at work and we were busier than Wal-Mart on black Friday selling $20 PlayStations, and I get this real ass wipe of a customer. I go up to him, introduce my name, and he starts telling me his whole life story. Now don't get me wrong, I don't mind to listening, but please keep it to the matter at hand.
So by now I am researching this customers account and of course the store is packed and very loud. Didn't help any matters that next to my customer was a couple arguing over who was going to get the upgraded cell phone. ( I love it when wives call their husbands bastards in my store...makes my day). Now apparently I was not reading fast enough because this customer decided to give me a tip. Now these are his exact words. "Katey, write this down. You will want to remember it. Apple. Cider. Vinegar. Pills. They will help you loose those extra pounds you have carrying around. I take them and all my cravings for food went away." Now, as I am listening to this customer say this to me, I am just shocked. I can't believe my ears. I kept thinking, "when did we get on my weight and what gives this guy the balls to even suggest a tip on losing weight to me?" And then my favorite thought crossed my mind. I thought, "how bad can I fuck up this guys account?"
So I calmly locked my computer. Put my hand up in front of the customer to stop his rambling. And politely informed him of this, "Sir, I appreciate your concern over my weight and I do apologize if I offend you in any way. However, in February I had the gastric bypass, and not like it's any of your business, but since then I have lost 115 pounds. I am sure you have heard of this surgery. Now I would appreciate if we could get back to the matter at hand. And by the way, I wouldn't take any more of those pills if I were you. I heard they cause erectile dysfunction." And I calmly walked to the door that leads to the back room.
I can still feel the fire. I am still so mad at some stupid old man who made a silly little comment to me that was totally unsolicited. He had no right. When I got home this evening and told my husband, he told me to let it go. However, the more and more I thought of it, the more and more I got pissed. How can any human not realize that saying something like that would cause them harm. It hurt my feelings. I harbored this all day. I let him win.
One of my favorite quotes is by Eleanor Roosevelt and she once said, "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." I have ran that quote in my mind ever since it happened. I pretty much gave him consent and let him get to me. Damn him. I let him effect my whole day. Damn him! May he have diarrhea for a whole day. The really runny kind that burns your asshole.